For those of you with children, how would you survive if you lost your children in a car accident? Or, what would we say to parents who have just lost their children? We’d love them, help them, and pray for them. We may even try to explain to them why God allows suffering.
[Listen to Fr. Justin’s homily here.]
Brothers, sisters, and guests, all those ways are good but there’s something more that only a few of us could do: Those of us who ourselves have lost children would be asked by God to share with others undergoing such a loss how He got us through our grief and pain.
Today, Jesus says in the Gospel, “You are witnesses of these things” (Lk 24:48), and part of witnessing includes sharing with other people what God has powerfully done in our lives. The Gospel says, “He opened their minds to understand the scriptures, and he said to them, ‘Thus it is written, that the Messiah is to suffer and to rise from the dead on the third day, and that repentance and forgiveness of sins is to be proclaimed in his name to all nations, beginning from Jerusalem. You are witnesses of these things” (Lk 24:45-48).
He opens their minds to understand the Scriptures, to remind them that God Himself chose to rescue us from suffering not by eliminating it, but by overcoming it through love. Jesus never gave in to temptation; He loved His Father and us to the very end. What He also said was true: He would rise again! And He did! Since the disciples saw all this with their own eyes, they now need to witness to it. Why? Because the story of their experience with Jesus would touch the heart in ways abstract ideas wouldn’t. Stories are more real and practical for people. Stories strengthen souls.
Two weeks ago during Mass, we talked about devout conversations, where we ask questions of substance to give people an opportunity to share what God is doing in their lives—an act of love. After that Mass, some of you asked me such beautiful questions. For example, some people asked me, “What’s the best part of being a pastor here?” I said, “When people don’t fall asleep during the homily.” Just kidding. The best part is being able to contribute in a small but powerful way to people’s encountering Christ and then becoming saints. Have you had any devout conversations? I hope so.
We’ve called this season Break the Silence because “You are witnesses of these things.” There are three things we want to say about this command:
1) “In a courtroom, a witness isn’t expected to argue the case, prove the truth, or press for a verdict; that is the job of attorneys. Witnesses simply report what happened to them or what they saw. Jesus said, ‘You will be my witnesses,’ not ‘You will be my attorney’” (Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life, 290).
2) The Greek word for ‘witness’ in this passage is ‘martyres,’ from which we get the English word, ‘martyr.’ So a martyr is someone who gives witness to Jesus by dying for Him. We may not be called to die for Jesus physically, but we’re called to die to our fear of sharing.
3) Jesus says today, “Thus it is written… that repentance and forgiveness of sins is to be proclaimed in his name to all nations” (Lk 24:46-47). Consequently, we’re sharing not for our own glory, but so that people can repent, meaning change their lives, and that they can receive forgiveness of sins, meaning they come back to the Father and renew their relationship with Him.
“He wants you to share your story with others. Sharing your testimony is an essential part of your mission on earth because it is unique. There is no other story just like yours, so only you can share it. If you don’t share it, it will be lost forever… Your personal testimony is more effective than a sermon, because unbelievers see pastors as professional salesmen, but see you as a ‘satisfied customer,’ so they give you more credibility… Shared stories build a relational bridge that Jesus can walk across from your heart to theirs” (Warren, 290).
In Faith Studies, we learn that witnessing is one of the six key elements needed for spiritual growth. In order for us to grow, we need to share! (We’ll talk more about this in two weeks.) “People can argue with what you believe or disagree with the Church’s teachings, but no one can argue with your personal experience” (CCO Faith Studies Series, Growth: Participant Guide, 50). This is why St. Paul shared his testimony six times (Acts 22-26).
Thank God St. Augustine wrote the first ever autobiography, The Confessions, because it has evangelized millions of souls. Thank God St. Thérèse’s superior asked her under obedience to write the story of her soul. Thank God our Mother Mary must have shared with St. Luke the story of how Jesus was conceived, because otherwise, we would never have known (Pope Benedict, Jesus of Nazareth: The Infancy Narratives, 16).
Jesus asks us to proclaim Him in every circumstance. So, what we do is very simple: When we’re in conversations, bring Jesus into it. But not artificially! When we’re at the restaurant and ordering our food, you don’t say to the waiter, “Let me tell you a story.” No!
We bring Jesus into conversations in a natural way. We can always say, “God bless you.” I often say, “Praise God,” or “God is good,” because that’s natural for me now. I remember: Even the atheist Dave Rubin, when someone told him about a tragedy, said, “God bless you,” because he felt that was the right thing to say! And, as I’ve said before, we can always say, “I’ll pray for you”—everyone appreciates that, even people who don’t believe in God.
I know many of us are shy, maybe intimidated, but can we do it for Jesus and other people? If you’re afraid it’s going to sound weird, it’ll only sound weird if you’re weird! And sometimes people say, “Fr. Justin, I don’t feel called.” No, you’re called. I just called you. God’s grace is powerful—ask for it! It will help you! You’ll get it from the Eucharist.
Every testimony that we’ve had has helped people, whether it’s about healing from abortion, surviving divorce, or not giving in to suicidal temptations.
I asked at the beginning how we’d survive if we lost our children in a car accident. Now I will share a testimony of such a tragedy by Geoff Moeller, who’s sitting over there and gave me permission to share his story:
Early Saturday morning, November 29, 2008, after my wife, Maria, our four sons and her mother left to pick up family before heading to the States, I went to work.
At around 10:00 a.m., I received a phone call from Maria. The sound of her voice told me something was very wrong. She told me she had been in a car accident. Lorenzo was uninjured, but Andrew, Karl and Matthew were unconscious. Her mother and aunt were seriously injured too.
I drove to Royal Columbian Hospital. Maria was sitting on a bed and holding Lorenzo who was a-year-and-a-half old and thankfully uninjured. Maria’s eyes were filled with fear and concern. She had an abrasion on her cheek.
Making my way to the opposite side of the emergency ward, I saw nurses and doctors look away from my gaze. Andrew and Matthew were in beds next to each other intubated and unconscious. Karl had been flown to B.C. Children’s Hospital.
The chief doctor approached me and identified himself. He was gentle but to the point. Matthew suffered a broken neck and it had taken 30 minutes to get his heart started again. His vital signs were failing even while on life support. He looked like he was sleeping. Andrew suffered major impact trauma to his lower face and bled from his brain. Only machines kept his heart working.
I asked if either could recover at all. The doctor looked directly into my eyes and shook his head. He then asked if Maria and I would consider organ donation. I responded yes. But first I asked for a priest and that one be sent to Karl also.
Six priests visited my sons over the next 8 hours. Andrew and Matthew were anointed four times, confirmed and blessed once. Andrew and Matthew were relocated by ambulance to B.C. Children’s Hospital. I gently told Maria that Andrew and Matthew were not going to survive. She and her cousin cried loudly in each other’s arms. I drove Maria, Lorenzo, and her cousin to B.C. Children’s Hospital to see Karl. A series of tests were done to determine if any improvement had occurred in Andrew’s and Matthew’s condition. A second series of tests the next day confirmed the official time of death as 9:00 p.m. Saturday night.
Karl lay in an induced coma, his head bandaged for a large laceration to the top rear of his head. Tubes protruded from his mouth. A brace covered his neck. Both legs were in casts. He suffered a spinal cord injury at chest level. His paralysis is permanent. He was brought out of the coma on Monday. Soon after, Maria and I told Karl that Andrew and Matthew had died.
Looking back, I knew the grace of God supported me. Even as I drove from Delta to Burnaby that Saturday morning and words were incapable of expressing my soul’s cry to God, there was resignation to His permissive will. Over the next hours and days, I KNEW in my soul that death was not the most terrible thing that could happen to my boys. I KNEW they were alive in Jesus and that I was called to witness to this truth without knowing why this was allowed to happen to them and to us.
I had a simple devotion to Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament since I was young, but my relationship deepened as I took life’s troubles to Him through Our Lady and trusted Him to resolve them. And He did. Graces came to me when I needed to trust, even when things seemed almost hopeless. I learned about the sacrificial nature of love. I learned that I am responsible for improving myself before worrying about the failings of others. I learned that graces given me and growth toward God are to be used for others, too.
Once I responded to the Lord and began visiting Him regularly in the Blessed Sacrament, our time together became a necessity. At times, I pray the Rosary for many intentions, and often I plead with the Lord from my heart to be a better man, a good husband, a role model for my sons, and most of all, to be the man the Father created me to be.
The pain caused by the deaths of Andrew and Matthew and the paralysis of Karl brought me into a deeper relationship with Our Lord by recognizing the redemptive power of suffering offered for others. Often it seemed that other people I encountered after the accident needed to see these truths of the Faith actually lived out in someone’s life; people need to see that the Faith makes a difference, that it makes ALL the difference.
The loss of my sons has also deepened my relationship with Our Lady, for she buried her Child too. And while she was able to see her risen Son before she died, it is faith in the Risen Lord that assures me I will see Andrew and Matthew again when God wills.
Some people might think my prayer life would have very serious and sad overtones since the accident, but I would like to share an experience that disproves that.
One day, at Mass, the priest elevated the Host at the consecration. There, in the Host, for the first and only time, I beheld the Lord Jesus as though on a throne, and He was smiling at me. The first impression I had was that He approved of my devotion toward Him, but there was more, almost a playfulness in His eyes, and suddenly He showed me my sons beside Him and they were so alive! Six-year-old Matthew jumped and danced and laughed around the Lord. Nine-year-old Andrew, more reserved, stood smiling and staring at me as though to say, ‘I’m here with Jesus, Dad.’ The message was that if I wanted to spend time with my sons, I could do that every time I receive the Lord in Communion, because, when I receive Communion, I receive heaven as well. I will never forget the way the Lord tilted back His head and laughed at the happiness of Andrew and Matthew; He seemed happy to have given me this joy too. I pray my family’s story may help others trust in the love of God through all life’s joys and pains.
This is the power of Jesus’ Resurrection and the best kind of evangelization. We should praise Jesus for His power. I invite anyone here who’s struggling in faith to turn to Jesus. Trust in Him, believe in Him, and, if you’re ready, make a commitment to Him.
We thank Geoff for his courage and generosity to share. He’s a very private man but responded to my request to share this part of his story. I asked him about the Eucharist because our community is centered on the Eucharist, and, on June 30, 2019 we’ll be opening our Adoration chapel from where we will receive every grace.
There is no other story of Jesus like yours, so only you can share it. Stories strengthen souls.